Situationship Checker
Six honest questions about labels, consistency, future talk, and how he treats you, so you can see whether this is actually going somewhere. You get a clear read and the words to ask for what you want, or to walk with your dignity intact.
The words you can use
Asking clearly is not desperate. It is self-respect. His answer, or his dodge, is your answer.
How to use this
- Answer for what is actually happening, over the last few weeks, not the best day you had together.
- Tap Show my read for an honest picture and a script you can adapt in your own words.
- Use the words when you are calm, not mid-argument, and then listen to the full answer, including the silence.
- Decide from there. Clarity is the win, whichever way it goes.
Questions women ask
Isn't asking for a label going to scare him off?
Someone who wants you is not scared off by a calm, clear question. If a fair question ends it, it was already ending. You did not cause that by asking.
What if I like it undefined too?
Then that is a real answer, and this just helps you check it is a free choice, not something you settled for to avoid a hard talk.
How long is too long without a label?
There is no universal number. The signal is not the calendar, it is whether he is moving toward you or keeping you comfortable while he keeps his options open.
Is this private?
Yes. It runs on your device only. Nothing is stored once you close the tab.
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