💛 Relationships · dating on purpose
Is it a relationship or a situationship?
These tools and guides help you work out what you want, spot red flags early and ask the questions the talking stage usually skips. No games and no manipulation.
Tools
Relationship tools
Ready for Love Quiz
Eight questions on what you want, your standards, how healed you are, and whether pressure from aunties, friends or your age is choosing for you.
Open tool → CheckerGreen & Red Flags Checker
Tick what you have seen him do and see your green flags and red flags counted.
Open tool → CheckerSituationship Checker
Eight months of good morning texts and no label? Answer six questions and get the words to ask him where it is going.
Open tool →When you want the full plan
The Wife Material Blueprint
A plan that covers getting ready, meeting serious men, reading a man's behaviour and the commitment conversation, with scripts for the hard talks. You pay once.
Are You a Girl's Girl?
Your friend's ex asks you out and says nobody has to know. Ten friendship situations, and the girl's girl type your answers show.
Play → GameRed Flag Radar
He went quiet for three days and came back with "I was busy." Green flag, let's talk or red flag? Make your calls and see what your radar says.
Play → QuizIs He Husband Material?
Answer from what you have seen him do, not what he promised, and see what he is showing you and what to raise with him.
Open tool → GameCouple Alignment
Money, children, family boundaries, where to live, faith at home and work after children. Answer, send, then see what you agree on and what to talk about.
Play → QuizDelulu or Clear-Eyed?
He watched your story and did not reply. Are you delulu or clear-eyed? Ten talking-stage situations and a result you will want to post.
Play → QuizHow Do You Love?
A busy week, a small argument, his birthday. Ten moments, then a love style you will want to send to your friends.
Play → GamePut a Finger Down: Dating Edition
An ex texted “hey stranger”? An aunty asked when you are bringing someone home? Put a finger down.
Play → WorksheetNon-Negotiables Worksheet
Write the standards you will not drop before your next talking stage.
Open tool → PlannerThe Talk Planner
Plan what to say when you ask "so what are we?" and what you will do with his answer.
Open tool → ChecklistMeet Marriage-Minded Men
Where do I meet serious men, other than weddings and my DMs? A checklist of places and habits.
Open tool →Guides
Guides on the talking stage, situationships, red flags and non-negotiables
Dating on purpose
Work out what you want before the next aunty asks when you are bringing your man home.
Read guide → GuideGreen flags that actually matter
What a serious man looks like in the first months, and the warning signs, for dating in Nigeria and abroad.
Read guide → GuideThe talking stage
What it is, how long it should last, and how to end it instead of drifting.
Read guide → GuideSituationship
What it means, how to know you are in one, and how to get out.
Read guide → GuideRed flags in a man
The early signs worth taking seriously, and the ones that are dealbreakers.
Read guide → GuideNon-negotiables
How to decide yours, in behaviour you can actually observe.
Read guide → GuideTalking stage questions
What to ask, and what each answer really tells you.
Read guide →Go deeper
The Wife Material Blueprint
When you want more than the guides: a plan that covers getting ready, meeting serious men, reading a man's behaviour and the commitment conversation, with scripts for the hard talks. You pay once.
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