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Is He Husband Material?

Men ask whether a woman is wife material. Is he husband material? Answer from what you have seen him do, and see what he is already showing you and what to raise with him.

Think of one man you are dating or talking to. Answer from what he has done more than once. Promises do not count yet.

1. Do his words and actions match?
2. When you disagree, does he stay respectful, with no insults and no silent treatment?
3. Does he accept your no without sulking or pushing?
4. Has he said he wants to marry you, and given you a rough timeline?
5. Do you want the same things on children, where to live and how to raise a family?
6. Does he handle money responsibly and talk about it openly with you?
7. Do you share the values that matter most to you, including faith if it matters to you?
8. Can he say sorry and then change what he did?
9. Is he kind to people who can do nothing for him, like waiters, drivers and security men?
10. When his family has an opinion about the two of you, does he talk to you before he decides?
Do you feel safe with him, including when he is angry?

What he is already showing you

    What to raise with him

      Please read this first

      You said you do not always feel safe with him. That matters more than every other answer here, and it is not something a quiz, or you managing him better, can fix.

      If you are in immediate danger, call 112 (Nigeria's national emergency number) or your local emergency services.

      For confidential support in Nigeria, you can reach the Women at Risk International Foundation (WARIF), the Mirabel Centre (Lagos), or the Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Agency (DSVA). In the diaspora, contact your local domestic-abuse helpline. Please talk to someone you trust.

      This is a mirror. It turns what you have seen into a read on where things stand. It cannot know him, and it does not decide for you. Only you know your full story. The quiz runs entirely in your browser. Nothing you answer is saved or sent anywhere.

      A safety-first note

      If a man controls where you go, who you see or your money, checks your phone, threatens you, or hurts you physically or sexually, that is abuse, and it is not your fault. If you are in immediate danger, call 112. For confidential help in Nigeria, reach out to WARIF, the Mirabel Centre, or the Lagos State DSVA; in the diaspora, your local domestic-abuse helpline.

      Cynthia Obinatu Written by Cynthia Obinatu, community and editorial lead

      How the Is He Husband Material? quiz works

      You think of one man and answer ten questions about what he does: whether his word matches his actions, how he behaves when you disagree, how he handles money, and whether he has said when he wants to marry. Each answer scores two for yes every time, one for sometimes and nothing for not yet. A last question asks whether you feel safe with him, and that one outweighs the rest.

      1. Answer from what he has done more than once. Promises do not count yet.
      2. Tap See my result to see what he is showing you and what to raise with him.
      3. Pick one thing from the "raise with him" list and bring it up this week.
      4. Send it to your friends. They can check their own man and compare.

      What your result means

      Sixteen points or more means he is showing husband material: consistent, respectful and serious about a future with you. Ten to fifteen means promising, with real questions you have not settled yet. Under ten means not husband material yet. Whatever the score, the list of things to raise with him is the most useful part, because how he responds tells you more than the quiz can.

      If you said you do not always feel safe with him, the quiz shows a safety note instead of a score, and it never offers a share button. To see what consistency and care look like in practice, read green flags that matter, and for the warning signs, red flags in a man.

      Common questions

      He scored low. Should I leave him?
      The quiz cannot decide that for you. A low score means there are things you have not seen yet. Raise them with him, give it a set time, and watch what he does.
      Isn't this unfair to him?
      Men ask whether a woman is wife material all the time. Asking the same of him is fair. The questions are about his character and how he treats you.
      Why does feeling safe change the result?
      Because no score makes up for being afraid of him. If you do not always feel safe, the quiz shows where to get help and does not give a score.
      Is this private?
      Yes. Your answers stay on your phone. If you share your result, the link and the picture show your result only, never your answers or his name.

      Where this comes from

      This page is about character and relationships. Read it alongside our editorial policy.

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