Are You a Girl's Girl?

Name: Are You a Girl's Girl?
Author: Cynthia Obinatu

Your friend's ex asks you out and says nobody has to know. What you do next says plenty. Pick your answer in ten friendship situations and find out what kind of girl's girl you are.

These are made-up situations. They are here for fun and conversation, and they say nothing about any friend you know. Real friendships have more context than four answers can hold. Your picks stay on your phone. Nothing is saved or sent anywhere.

If a friend is not safe

If a friend tells you a man controls her, threatens her or hurts her, believe her and stay close. If she is in immediate danger, call 112. For confidential help in Nigeria, reach out to WARIF, the Mirabel Centre, or the Lagos State DSVA; in the diaspora, her local domestic-abuse helpline.

Written by Cynthia Obinatu, community and editorial lead

How the Girl's Girl quiz works

You will see ten friendship situations that Nigerian women know well, from aso ebi money to a 1am breakup call. Pick the answer closest to what you would do. Your choices reveal how you tend to show up for your friends.

Read one situation at a time.
Pick the answer closest to you.
See your girl's girl type.
Send your result to the group chat.

What your result means

Your result shows your usual friendship style. It is not a score for whether you are a good friend. You may be loud in one friendship, quiet in another and late when life gets busy. Use the result to notice how your care reaches the people you love. The pick-me result means your answers often put your own comfort, spotlight or a man's attention before your friend, and it gives you a place to start.

A friend dating a man who speaks badly to her is one of the hardest situations here. If you are worried about a man in a friend's life, read red flags in a man before you talk to her, so you can name what you saw.

Common questions

Can I get more than one type?

Your result shows the type that appears most in your answers. You may still recognise yourself in the other types.

Is one result better than the others?

Some patterns support friendship better than others, but the quiz is not ranking your worth. The pick-me result names a habit you can change, just as every result gives you something to notice and practise.

What if none of the answers is exactly what I would do?

Pick the closest one. Real friendships have more context than four answers can hold.

Is this private?

Yes. Your picks stay on your phone. If you share your result, the link and the picture show your result only, never your picks.

Where this comes from

Nigerian women on their life-changing female friendships. Zikoko.
Na me f up? I hid a job opportunity from my best friend. Zikoko.
How our friends act like social insurance. Greater Good Science Center.
Friendships and your health. Greater Good Science Center.

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