The Wait Check-in
Everybody asks when the baby is coming. Nobody asks how you are doing. Use this page to write down how the wait is sitting with you, privately. There is no score and it never tells you what is wrong with you. It points you to a real person when you need one.
Take these one at a time. There are no right answers.
- Am I able to feel small moments of joy or peace?
- Am I sleeping, or lying awake worrying about trying?
- Do I still feel close to my partner, or has trying pushed us apart?
- Can I be around pregnancy news without it breaking me?
- Are the heavy feelings slowly easing, or getting heavier?
Whatever you wrote, please read this
There is no score here. If a few of these feel true for you, or one of them feels heavy, or the hard feelings have lasted, please reach out to someone. Asking for help takes strength.
Talk to your doctor or a counsellor. In Nigeria you can call the Mentally Aware Nigeria Initiative (MANI) on 0809 111 6264. If you are abroad, call Samaritans on 116 123 in the UK, or call or text 988 in the US or Canada. If you have known pregnancy loss, a counsellor or doctor can help with the grief, and you do not have to carry it alone. You matter.
Go further
More than a tool: The Trying-to-Conceive Blueprint
The guided plan to understand your body, prepare, involve your partner, and know what to ask, plus a protected community of women who are trying too. Start when you are ready.
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